New college student faces friendship enigma
Dear Amy: I just started college and I'm living in a dorm for the first time in my life.
This has exacerbated a problem that I've had my whole life.
I'm not sure if I'm antisocial or asocial (or what), but I have a hard time making friends.
I came to college with a group of friends from high school. I like all of them, but I've always felt like I am on the periphery.
In high school, it was OK, because I had one close friend outside of the group, but she went to a different college on the other side of the country.
Here at school I feel like I have no real friends; no one ever objects to my joining in their plans, but I'm never invited to join in without my asking.
At home I was happy to be a bit of a loner, but suddenly I'm feeling internal pressure to spend more time being social and outgoing. I've only been here for a week, but already I'm having a hard time.
Any advice?
-- Lonely in the Dorm
Dear Lonely: I'd like to challenge a couple of your assertions.
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