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Hey, Where Are You?

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I'm wondering whether you could settle a dispute between my friend "Laura" and me. She thinks it's rude to "ghost" -- leave parties without saying bye. I think it's fine.

For example, last weekend, our mutual friend had a barbecue. This particular friend is a social butterfly, so there were probably close to 75 people there. I ...Read more

Age gap and wage gap frustrate girlfriend

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 24-year-old woman. My 18-year-old boyfriend doesn't make enough money and won't save.

The age difference between us doesn't bother me, but his money management does.

We split all the shared bills, but he lost his job and in the three-week gap before getting a new one he managed to borrow $1,200 from me (which he...Read more

Woman Can't Make The Break From Her Decades-Long Affair

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been dating a married man for 30 years. Our relationship started a few months after he got married. I know it was wrong to begin the relationship, but it started just as a way for me to get sexual experience. For him, I think he was infatuated with the idea that a younger woman found him attractive.

I asked him out knowing he ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 8/31/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I have been married to "Cole" for 18 months. Soon after the wedding, I became pregnant. Then Cole left the country on business for nearly five months. A few weeks before he came home, Cole confessed that he had slept with other women on this trip, and that he had a relationship with one of them. I tried to talk calmly about it, but...Read more

Just Want Her to Be Happy

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My 22-year-old daughter is lovely, kind and smart. She rarely dated in high school, and this was a big disappointment for her, but I assumed it was because she is 5'10" and was very quiet and shy. I told her college boys would be taller and to get involved in extracurriculars and things would be better.

She had a happy college...Read more

Help a Mother Out

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am the eldest of four remaining children of our soon-to-be 88-year-old mother, who has been sent home to hospice care.

She needs 24/7 care, and all four of us still work full time. A family meeting before her release produced a level of animosity and stress beyond imagination. I recommended a 90-day stay in a rehabilitation ...Read more

High school friends face boyfriend tension

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My best friend and I are high school seniors and I strongly dislike her boyfriend.

He treats her horribly, tells her "no promises" about cheating on her when they're arguing, entertains other girls and doesn't shut it down and then makes jokes about it. Recently she asked who the girl he was texting was, and he said, "Oh, I don't know...Read more

Husband's Longtime Friendship Is Now Forbidden By His Wife

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I recently retired after 26 years of working with a professional partner of the opposite sex. Now my wife expects me to cut off all communication with her. There was never any intimacy or sexual attraction at all, just a friendship established over many years.

I have explained this to my wife many times, but she refuses to believe me...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 8/30/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am a 23-year-old woman and will admit that I am an extremely jealous and possessive person. I am constantly accusing my boyfriend of looking at other women and thinking of other women while we make love.

Just recently, I gave my boyfriend a gift certificate for a massage, but I wanted to be in the room, watching everything that ...Read more

Cellphone Carpool

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I have taken to doing a carpool with other families for my son's sport. My son, 11, still does not have a cellphone (nor does he need one). Many of the boys in our carpool have phones or bring along devices for the ride. More than once my son has mentioned that he is the only one ...Read more

Sibling Rivalry

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My children are grown and have wonderful families of their own, but my daughter is extremely jealous of her brother and his family.

My daughter moved to another state after she graduated college (she is the eldest) and lived with her father for a while before she married and had her two children. She lived there for almost 24 ...Read more

Children in the buff shouldn't be on Facebook

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am writing to you regarding people sharing pictures of children in the buff on Facebook, Instagram or other social media.

I have a girlfriend who constantly posts naked pictures of her 3-year-old son.

Even worse, some of these photos were taken on a public beach. Imagine the looks from others as they stroll by!

To me, this is not ...Read more

Woman Copes With Anxiety By Filtering Out Bad News

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Clearly, America is in a state of turmoil. I am horrified and ashamed of the senseless death occurring daily.

I deal with anxiety, particularly regarding fear of death. As a result, the only thing I've found that I can do to cope with current events is to scan headlines, and ask my understanding husband for a synopsis of events that ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 8/29/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My sister-in-law, "Ilene," works for the airlines and gets to fly for free. Consequently, she has been visiting us a lot. She stays with us (she doesn't ask), never rents a car (so we are burdened with entertaining and transporting her), and gives little notice (sometimes we learn about it the day before).

Ilene's father lives ...Read more

Angry and Scared

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

This week I discovered that my spouse has been hiding daily drinking. Spouse cops to drinking a fifth of vodka per day for the past year; I think the reality is probably more. Six months ago I called an ambulance because I thought Spouse was having a stroke; turned out Spouse was drunk....Read more

Propose to a Cheater?

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have been dating a wonderful woman and have been intending to ask her to marry me. We've made plans for the future together, but at present, I'm recovering from a horrible motorcycle accident. I won't be at 100 percent for a few months. I asked her whether that would be a problem, and she said no.

Well, it came to my attention ...Read more

Boyfriend's social surveillance spells trouble

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have been dating my boyfriend "William" for 2.5 years. We are both divorced with children. William's ex-wife had a horrible two-year affair that hurt him deeply. Knowing this, I have always tried to assure him that he is the only man in my life and I make sure to go above and beyond to reassure him that I am thinking about him ...Read more

Guest's Behavior At Wedding Earns No Thanks From Bride

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: During my wedding reception a month ago, one of the guests (a friend of my mom's) poured a glass of water on the DJ's laptop because he felt the music was too loud and he wanted it shut down. My husband was furious and asked the guest to leave. The incident was blamed on too much alcohol, and it ruined the rest of the evening. Many ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 8/28/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been working with a 16-year-old boy for two months. "Justin" has a bad home life, and we try and provide him with a safe, structured environment. He comes to our home after school and stays until his curfew at 6 p.m. He hates to go home, but he does what is asked.

Justin and his mother fight a lot. "Fran" is ...Read more

Confronting a Friend

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

One of my best friends committed suicide two years ago, devastating both me and our group of friends. It's been an incredibly hard healing process.

In the immediate aftermath, another friend in our group, "Beth," got emotional support from and eventually started dating someone else in our group. They are still together. A ...Read more