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Mysterious messages raise relationship questions

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 28-year-old, college-educated woman who has been in a serious relationship for the past two years. Last year my boyfriend's job took him to a different state. I left my family and job and moved to be with him.

We were happy and made do with what time he had after his long workdays.

We had been in this new location for about ...Read more

Man Abused As Child May Need To Confront It As Adult

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for two years. He shared with me that he was sexually abused by a cousin for years as a child. He told me he has never disclosed it to anyone but me.

My boyfriend says he has come to terms with the abuse and his abuser, but I'm not sure it's true. He became really upset when he ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/4/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Please advise your readers not to hold onto any letters that contain family information or intimate details of a relationship that should remain secret. I was cleaning out my mother-in-law's house after her death and came upon letters addressed to "My dearest wife and son," written while my father-in-law was away at war. As I started...Read more

I've (Not) Got Your Back (This Time)

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

I love that you are big on each spouse "having the other's back" -- as they are on the same "team." However, when is it OK NOT to have your partner's back?

My spouse routinely makes statements that are patently and demonstrably untrue -- easily disproved with a couple of clicks of a mouse. Yet I am berated (later) for not "...Read more

Mom wants husband to be more engaged with baby

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I've been married for five years to a wonderful, funny and very hardworking man. We have one child, who just turned a year old.

We live 10 hours away from my family/friends and five hours away from my in-laws. My husband travels for his job, so most of the time it's just me and our son at home -- sometimes for weeks at a time.

When ...Read more

Struggling Sister Should Get Help And Get Going

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have a hard time differentiating between enabling and just helping out my sister. Throughout her adult life, even while she was married, she has never been able to make ends meet.

She's single now and in her 50s, a hardworking but underemployed, depressed individual. I have a good job and I feel guilty if I don't help her each ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/3/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

ATTENTION ANNIE'S MAILBOX EDITORS: THE WRITERS OF "ANNIE'S MAILBOX" ARE ON VACATION THIS WEEK. THE FOLLOWING COLUMN IS ADAPTED FROM A 2009 COLUMN. THANK YOU FOR YOUR ATTENTION. - CREATORS.COM

Dear Annie: In three years, I will be away at college. I am concerned because Mom has a boyfriend with a major anger problem, and he throws tantrums and ...Read more

All About His Mother

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I have two elementary school-age children, and my in-laws live about an hour from us. Every year, we end up spending Mother's Day with them, church followed by a Mother's Day brunch at some restaurant, followed by hours of sitting at someone's house talking.

That probably doesn't sound...Read more

Should couples split the check for birth control?

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am in a long-term relationship, and my partner and I are beginning to discuss birth control options (in particular, the pill). Should I ask my partner to help me pay for birth control?

I feel it should be our combined responsibility, as it benefits us both. But how do I handle the situation if he should refuse to split the cost with...Read more

Bed-Wetter Can Get Help But He Has To Make The Effort

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have a good friend who is a bed-wetter. It's obvious because he's constantly doing laundry and his home smells bad at times. We once shared a hotel room, and I was awakened in the middle of the night by a strong smell of urine.

He tries to hide his problem, but seems to be doing little if anything to find a solution for it. I want ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/2/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am a 38-year-old single man with a serious problem involving my 13-year-old nephew, "Hayden." Hayden's father died when he was 3, and I immediately stepped in as a surrogate parent. We share a close, affectionate relationship, and he has spent the night at my house on numerous occasions. There was never a problem until a month ago....Read more

Boyfriend Has Different Roles

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I was sure I wanted to spend the rest of my life with my boyfriend of three years, until I asked him if he felt the same and he said no. He says he doesn't want to get married or move in together, but he might feel differently in the future. We discussed breaking up and he made it clear...Read more

Seriously ill mother also copes with tough teen

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I've been dealing with epilepsy and its unknown causes for more than 20 years. Several tests by my neurologist mark me as a good candidate for surgery. I'm currently planning surgery to possibly prevent future seizures. I know this is very difficult for my husband and teenage daughter to have to live with and accept. I try to be as ...Read more

Daughter Shuts Door On Mom In Retaliation For Remarriage

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am 54. My daughter is 25 and married with two kids. Her dad and I have been divorced for almost 10 years. Three years ago, I met a wonderful man. After dating for about a year, we were married. It's been heavenly; I love my life.

My problem is my daughter. She's angry that I remarried. She told me she should be first in my life. ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/1/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: What do you think about a married couple whose only intimacy is makeup sex? My husband says he loves me and I believe he is faithful, but he never initiates anything in the bedroom, and we have sex only if I pitch a fit because I feel neglected. I don't do this often, so we've had sex only twice in the past 15 months.

We are both ...Read more

Too Young to Understand

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hi, Carolyn:

I have a 2 1/2-year-old son. Sadly my mom died from cancer when he was 10 months old. He is now at an age where his language is developed quite well and he loves looking through photos with my wife and me. I sort of avoid showing him pictures of my mom because I don't know what to say.

I know he can't really comprehend death at...Read more

Man's partner has intimate relationship with another man

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: For the past two years I have been in love with a wonderful woman. When we met she explained that she was good friends with a man she met 16 months before. They had a sexual relationship, but she decided it would end. However, after making this decision, they fell back into sex while on a combined family vacation.

She has always ...Read more

Couple's Difference In Age Causes Girl's Family To Worry

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm 17 and dating this older guy. Everyone is afraid that one day I'll just disappear, but he isn't like that. I know him from when I was younger, and my dad and his dad were really close. People just don't trust me, even though I have told them nothing but the full truth from the start. I'm happy. What should I do? -- MISUNDERSTOOD ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 4/30/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Can anyone tell me why old men (over 60) don't or won't shower or put on clean clothes?

I have several older male friends who smell so bad that we don't want to be any closer than 12 feet. And they wear the same clothes for weeks until the clothes almost fall off their bodies. When they come to visit, the furniture where they sit ...Read more

The Plus-1

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

Next week my live-in boyfriend is a groomsman in his best friend's wedding in his hometown. I am also going, but am sort of dreading it. We are staying with his parents, which itself is fine, but because of his groomsman "obligations," he'll be gone most of the day, and has asked his ...Read more

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