Age gap and wage gap frustrate girlfriend
-- Disappointed
Dear Disappointed: It is shocking that -- knowing how you feel about money and what you know about your boyfriend -- you would give him $1,200. You will NEVER see that money again.
Your boyfriend should not have to "take care of you" financially. You are obviously capable of taking care of yourself. If you resent bankrolling him, then you shouldn't do it.
He is 18. He is handling his money the way many 18-year-old people do, and making choices that immature people make. If he is a heavy pot user, it will naturally soak up a fair amount of his income, as well as affect his initiative. Maybe he will grow out of this phase -- maybe not.
You are 24. If you want someone who is more mature, financially stable and grown-up, you should probably find someone who matches your maturity and initiative. Stability is obviously an important value to you, so choose to be with someone who fulfills this value.
Also -- I highly recommend being on your own for a while. Being alone is much more preferable to baby-sitting and bankrolling your romantic partner's weed habit.
Dear Amy: As a smartphone user, I have been guilty of using my phone at inappropriate times, but the more I am around people on their phones the more I am seeing the rudeness of people using them.
I was with some family members and an older friend when two of the family members, (both over 60) were talking on their phones and texting while at dinner.
It was embarrassing! They were upset and defensive when I made a comment about it.
-- Sick of Cells
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