Age gap and wage gap frustrate girlfriend
Dear Amy: I am a 24-year-old woman. My 18-year-old boyfriend doesn't make enough money and won't save.
The age difference between us doesn't bother me, but his money management does.
We split all the shared bills, but he lost his job and in the three-week gap before getting a new one he managed to borrow $1,200 from me (which he wants to pay back).
He says he wants a second job, but just comes up with excuses. I hate feeling like I'm nagging him to make more money.
He's an amazing and sweet guy that I love, but I've started resenting him.
I have taken him out and paid for movies, dates, etc., but I want to feel financially stable. I want a man who can take care of me (more than just emotionally).
I want to talk to him about this, but he gets so defensive. Am I being ridiculous?
He did nothing for me on my birthday last month, and when I confronted him that it hurt that he couldn't even write me a love note, or buy a $1 card, or do anything cheap (or free), he just made excuses.
I told him I knew he spent money on weed instead of on me. Normally it doesn't bother me when he smokes weed, but it hurts to know he's spending money he doesn't have on pot, rather than paying my money back, or celebrating my birthday.
Am I becoming my boyfriend's sugar mama?
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